Shame brought you here, but it doesn’t have to define you.
Let’s discover together how much better life can be when you no longer feel broken and alone.
Self-doubt, self-judgement, wondering if you belong, feeling empty, being stuck in life.
These crush your spirit, and they rob you of a good life.
You can see how life can be better. you can see that others look happy. But you’re stuck in the same endless cycles of “what’s wrong with me?”
So what does that mean?
You’ve probably already tried to fix yourself in numerous ways: you’ve tried to gut it out, talk it out, meditate or medicate it out, or even just wait it out. But the images, thoughts, feelings, & body sensations – they’re overwhelming and hold you back in every aspect of your life.
That must mean it’s your fault, right?
Because it sure feels that way! Even your own thoughts keep telling you that you’re broken or defective.
But I believe that you are whole and enough
Your history doesn’t have to set the course for the rest of your life.
Shame feels unspeakable, but you just can’t fake how it feels inside anymore. It hurts to the very core of you to not live your full potential. You know that there must be more to life.
- You just want to feel connected to yourself and feel connected to others.
- You want to feel comfortable with who you are by yourself and with others.
- You want to feel motivated to get things done or to take the next steps in life.
- You want to feel clear and free.
- Simply put, you just want to feel happy and at ease. Maybe you wonder why it’s so hard. I used to wonder that, too.
Rena K. Bauman
I get it.
I remember how awful it feels when so much of life isn’t working. It’s like you’re going in the wrong direction, and nothing will turn things around.
In fact, there was a time when I uttered out loud in despair, “If I must live, life must be different.”
I spent the next twenty years figuring out how to experience good feelings, genuine self-compassion and being more fully alive. Along the way, I’ve learned a few things about what does and does not work on that journey. Now I’m eager for you to reach a similar destination.
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Join the part of you that knows the way.
The map to your healing is based on you biology and the latest neuro, affective, and complexity science.
Start from where you are now
No matter how stuck you feel right now, your biology is already trying to help you by giving you information on how to reliably feel better. Shame melts away, ease of living begins, and incrementally you feel in control of your body again.
Your biology already knows the way
Learn the science of your biology’s blueprint for healing. As you come into synch with your system’s natural healing rhythms, your relationships, work, living situation, finances, and health improve automatically.
You can take the safe and easy route
Don’t settle for paths that make you feel worse first. Feeling better really is the route to feeling better. Choose the safe way to gently end the symptoms of trauma and grow your capacity for the ups and downs of life.
It doesn’t matter why you think you have so much shame.
You might point to pre- or perinatal trauma; a “shy” temperament; abusive, neglectful, or narcissistic parenting; childhood bullying or trouble with schooling; not measuring up economically; religious teachings; culturally-induced mixed messages or injustices, or any other innumerable possibilities.
It doesn’t matter what symptoms of shame you experience.
You might experience such things as recursive thoughts, intrusive imagery, social anxiety, depression, addictions, self-harm behaviors, disordered eating, or chronic procrastination.
The feeling of shame is not the problem to be addressed.
No matter what traumas or ensuing shame-like symptoms you have experienced, chronic shame is a complex network of interactions that has your system behaving in predictable and consistent ways, but in ways that are out of sync with itself. It is a set of patterns in your overall system that does not allow you to be at ease in the present or move forward into your better future.
You are not a problem to be fixed.
It’s possible to help your system get unsuck, at which point, shame simply melts like a block of ice in the sun.
Get on with Feeling Better.
If you’re done with being confined to the shame prison and this possibility is evoking some curiosity for you, I’d like to invite you to consider working together to eliminate any chronic or debilitating shame.